There is nothing that offends me more than someone who plays the “offended” card and claims righteous indignation. You can’t even have an attempt at humor around these people. Have a little fun and you can see that sour look coming over their faces and looking down their nose at you.
Worse yet are the people who feign offended when it serves to advance their own agenda. Politicians are really good at this one. In fact, in Canada today, there are a whole bunch of politicians pretending to be offended at what another politician supposedly said and turning it into a media circus. It’s cheap politics and it’s as transparent as bottled water.
People who claim to be offended are manipulators, plain and simple. Claiming to be offended is an act that people of poor self-worth pull when they want to get attention. It’s the equivalent to a child’s temper-tantrum, only supposedly more refined. Their offended-act is a ploy to make the offender seem as though they are not as smart and refined as the one who claims to be offended. It’s childish. It’s counter-productive. And it will alienate and divide a good staff. It makes the issue all about the person claiming to be offended and not about the issue itself. That’s selfish and offensive.
ATTITUDE ADJUSTMENT: People are people. No one person is better than another in the workplace. Every person has their own value. And, they bring their own values, opinions and beliefs to work just like you. Trotting out your offended act when it serves you won’t change another person’s behaviour so get over yourself. Your little “high-and-mighty” act is tiresome and divisive. You’re forcing your co-workers to take sides when you do that. And shouldn’t your team be working together instead of breaking apart to choose sides? Force people to choose a side and you may be surprised at the outcome. Most people see right through these little acts of indignation.
The truth is, if you’re a competent worker, any goodwill you may have built with your co-workers purely as a result of the quality of your work and your abilities is lost when you pull the “I’m so offended” crap that offends everyone else and forces an uncomfortable silence and awkward moments – more so than the person who supposedly offended you.
If you’re pulling the “holier-than-thou” act in the workplace then you need to go or at least be put in your place. No one is forcing you to be there. No one points a gun at your head in the morning and demands you show up. So if something in the workplace offends you, stop going and instead find a group of people who will tolerate your intolerance. There is no place for righteous indignation in the workplace. The truth is people have tolerated you up to now. Why can’t you act with the same courtesy they’ve shown you and tolerate them?
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