How Whiners Can Kill Corporate Culture

In politics, the candidate who shakes the most hands and kisses the most babies usually wins.

From personal experience in radio, the DJ who attends more events, shakes hands with more people and then talks about those same people on the radio next day usually wins the ratings.

In corporate organizations, the person who speaks to employees most often usually wins the hearts and minds of the employee.

Now you might think that the person speaking most often is a manager - but you would be wrong. The person who speaks most often in any organization is usually the one who complains the most because the managers are afraid to stand up to whiners and publicly take them on. They're either waiting for an OK from upper management or hoping that a series of memos will eradicate a vocal dissenter.

Huh, what color is the sky in your world?

Misery loves company. So complainers will talk incessantly until someone agrees with them about how "bad" the workplace is. A single complainer can infect an organization so badly that it can affect the Culture of the workplace and consequently how the organization serves it customers.

The problem is that most managers feel they have to run every little thing through upper management and Legal because they don't feel like they are supported to handle something like this themselves - at least that's been their experience. You see, that's the wrong attitude because in the absence of any message from management, an employee will follow any voice, even a dissenting voice - because it's the only one speaking.

So here's how you take on the whiner: you speak positively to each individual member of your team every single day and you compliment something specific they do individually - and do it with meaning. A ten-second encounter between manager and employee each and every day will do more to create a workable Culture of trust and an engaged employee than any formal performance review.

Once an employee is engaged, no complainer is going to be able to pull them off of their game.

The person who speaks most often with the best heart and best intentions will usually win the war for hearts and minds.